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Post by ~*~Kit_The_Kat~*~ on Dec 6, 2004 9:42:52 GMT -5
Hi honey. Please don't think me as insensitive to your feelings honey, but does the saying "beating a dead horse" mean anything? I personally would just let him be if he doesn't respect you enough to call after two weeks (I personally would expect an apology the same night he stood me up or the next morning at the very latest), then I wouldn't waste my time waiting around or even making myself available to him. He apparently (based on what you've posted here), has some type of attraction to Charm and vice versa, so I wouldn't put myself out there for another disappointing let down. That's just me, because I've been there too many times and after being burned by that fire more than once, I've learned through the heartache that I'm worth more than being treated that way. You are an interesting and intelligent woman and when someone that is worthy enough to have your affections comes along, you'll definetly know it by the way he treats you as if your the one and only most important person around. In other words sweetie, don't settle for second best (Jim), your "prince charming" is still waiting for you to notice him. Hope that helps hon.
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Post by hotlips70 on Dec 6, 2004 10:35:25 GMT -5
Sweetie I agree with Kit but I would change one little thing I would tell him to F himself....but that's me...Kit has a better way to handle it then I do, but like I said if I only lived closer. Bad heart or not I would kick his a$$ for you. Just beat on him and call him dirty name... A-hole. sorry...I don't mean to sound like a total phyco, but it just hurts me to see a friend hurt... sorry sweetie....  listen to Kit she knows what she is talking about.... |
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Post by CharmingP4 on Dec 6, 2004 12:58:30 GMT -5
I know you guys are right but it just...I can't just get over him...and it hurts so bad that once again, someone else will be chosen over me...not just that, but the two of them together...I don't even want to think about it....but, I know you guys are right...you always are.
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Post by Amanda on Dec 6, 2004 20:37:57 GMT -5
Hey CP4, I'm going to agree with everyone else on this one. But I know how bad it hurts, but trust me, it'll feel better to tell that jackass where to go. If you put some closure on it, and move on, date new people or just take a break, you will feel better.
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Post by CharmingP4 on Dec 6, 2004 22:54:49 GMT -5
Thanks amanda....its a lot easier said then done though....cause while he is a jerk....I know that a large part of that is an act and that when he isn't putting up that front he is a really nice and caring guy....but I also know that once I do get over him, I will realize he's not worth it....but I'm not over him yet...and I don't know when I will be....I just wish you guys could tell me exactly how to make it all better and fix it all for me....but I know you can't.......only time will....
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Post by Amanda on Dec 7, 2004 0:07:17 GMT -5
I'm sorry girl... the only thing I can tell you is that you will get over him. All you gotta do is take a pint of Ben & Jerry's, put on your comfy clothes, and watch Lifetime all night. Thats the only thing I can tell you to do to make you feel better. Other than that your right.. only time will tell.
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Post by TrustNo1SM on Dec 7, 2004 13:20:41 GMT -5
Hey I agree with all everyone else. They seem to know what they are talking about. I hope this all works out for you. I know it hurts and you still like him but you deserve way better than that. Okay you deserve the best.  |
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Post by MASON564 on Jan 4, 2005 23:33:50 GMT -5
cp4 it is easier said than done.but you have to ask yourself is it worth you getting hurt?usually they do this to you numerous times they will continue.you are better than that.you deserve to be treated with respect and honor.you are a good person.you deserve so much better.i know your heart is defending him trying to come with an excuse to his actions.your head is telling you different.it may sound cruel but once they know they can treat you this way they will continue to do it.they wont stop.the likely hood of a light coming on inside his head is very rare.the only way it will come on is if you were to put a stop to it.maybe years afterwards he will realise how wrong he was in treating you this way.that only comes with maturity in his part.believe me it doesnt happen over night.it is easier said than done.no one can make up your mind except you.you are the one who has to deal with it.the one who feel an empty spot for awhile like something is missing in your life--youll be missing him.honestly if he doesnt respect you(it sounds like he doesnt) then you are not missing anything.there are better people out there.you will find someone else.you will survive it.you will be heart broken fo awhile,but in the end you will be better.i cant make up your mind.all i can do is be here for you.if you ever need to talk or cry or anything else.im here.im sure everyone else will be too.perhaps you should try to take some time out away from him to clear your thoughts.to think for awhile.sometimes following your heart isnt the wisest of the choices.but then again sometimes the same with the head.only you can decide.it is very difficult to do.you try to have some time.im here for you if ever needed.hope everything goes okay for you.let me know how it goes.no matter what you decide.take care.
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Post by CharmingP4 on Jan 5, 2005 20:02:09 GMT -5
I have since come to terms with him always being a jerk, no matter what he says and how much he says he won't be anymore. And you're right, people start walking all over me and they don't stop. Which is a major part of my new years resolution. To stop talking to those kind of people all together and wait for them to come around. Cept I'm not sure I can wait that long....I may just give up on them altogether...Things will never be what they were over the summer and if anything was possible between me and him, it's not now....cause things are different now. And I just have to deal.
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Post by MASON564 on Feb 10, 2005 22:48:58 GMT -5
i am so late to respond arent i?lol.sorry bout that.i hope things are better for you.i hope you are going through with the new year resolution. its hard thing to do, but you can do it. you are strong and we are here for you. ;D
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Post by CharmingP4 on Feb 22, 2005 19:18:29 GMT -5
Hey Mason, yea I have been going through with my new years resolution...which....is really hard. Because now I am alone....I mean...I have you guys..a.nd I have a couple other friends, mostly out of town...but...those that were hurting my feelings, that I decided to not take it from anymore...well.....nothings changed...except that I don't call them. So I don't hear from any of them and I don't see any of them. But...if they don't want me around then screw em. I am sick of being hurt over it and coming on here and whining about it....soon two of my good friends will be moving to town and I will have them......so there to all the others!  |
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